Who Are You Again?
How to Go Deeper With Your Mum Friends
Making mum friends you truly connect with is magic.
You know the kind: the ones who just get it, who’ve seen you cry in the soft play toilets, who know your coffee order and your youngest child’s allergies. You meet and within ten minutes, you’re sharing birth stories and snack hacks like you’ve known each other for years.
These women are your mum tribe, your WhatsApp lifeline, your fellow emotional load carriers.
But here’s the thing—how much do you actually know about who they were before the babies?
You probably know their toddler’s nap window and how stressed they are about returning to work after maternity leave. But do you know their favourite band in uni? Or the country they’ve always wanted to move to?
Motherhood can feel like it erases everything that came before. But those stories, those layers—they’re still there.
If you want to strengthen your mum friendships, try asking questions that go beyond day-to-day parenting and reconnect with the person underneath.
Great Questions to Ask Your Mum Friends
Use these to spark deeper connection at the park, over a coffee, or on a group chat when everyone’s up feeding at 3am:
How did you meet your partner? What was your first date like?
Have you ever been travelling? Where was your favourite place?
Did you go to university, and what did you study?
What would your death row meal be?
Were you a festival person? Which ones did you love?
What was your childhood like?
Do you have siblings—and are you close?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
You might be surprised at how much you learn—and how much deeper your connection feels when you stop talking just about parenting and start talking about everything else, too.
Why It Matters
When you’re deep in the trenches of stay-at-home motherhood or the chaos of the school run/work juggle, it’s easy to forget who you are—and who your friends are, too. These conversations create space for real connection, outside of routines, tantrums, and sleep charts.
They remind you that you’re not just "Mum". And neither is she.
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